[?? Okay not to be okay? The idea is completely foreign to him, who, one, considers no part of himself bad or wrong or ugly, and two, has to be completely in control of himself, if not his circumstances, but ideally that also, literally all of the time. It's clearly confusing to him, as his brows contract above his eyes.]

Calling yourself damaged sounded like it.

It's true that you don't have to be happy all of the time! You should be with someone who you're comfortable being your real self around, not just your happiest self. Someone you can express your hurt and anger to, without being afraid they'll use it to hurt you more. Is that what you mean?